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What is your vagina supposed to look like?

I know, I said it. Out loud and everyone is uncomfortable. But let me tell you something. If you do not know what “normal” or “supposed to look like is, then how will you ever know if something is wrong or not? I mean, come on!

There are some things to consider when using the word “normal” though. First and foremost, please understand that everyone is different. All vaginas are different. All labias are different. All clitoris’s are different.

What I mean when I say “normal” is, are you seeing what you have always seen or are you seeing something out of place?

Your vagina is adaptable. You will go through changes and notice differences when you become pregnant and postpartum, menopause, etc. but you should still be in tune with what your “normal” is so that you know when seeing someone is necessary.

I have attached a video talking about just general anatomy of the vagina, but please note there are many more layers. I will be presenting this the best I can for future purposes, so keep checking my youtube channel!

Okay, so we are ready to look. I recommend either a deep squat with a mirror on the floor, or sitting with a handheld between your legs or a mirror on the floor in front of you.

What are we looking for?

After watching the video below, you want to consider these things for YOUR vagina:

  1. Color of tissue. You should have a nice pink, healthy color to your vagina, especially inside the labia "lips)

  2. Labia. Pay attention to how your tissue typically lays. Do you have the labia minora that is going further than the labia majora (this is not a negative thing), is the labia hanging down? Get to know your labia!

  3. What happens when you kegel. When you properly perform a pelvic floor contraction, do you notice a nice, healthy close and lift? If not, why?

  4. What happens when you cough. Is there tissue coming out? Is there discharge coming out with coughing? Do you close and lift with your cough?

  5. Where is your clit? I know, you’re laughing. That’s okay! But if you know where it is, you are more likely to be able to get the sensations you truly want and be able to communicate with your partner.

  6. How wide is your hole? This is important because when you become pregnant and when you give birth, this can change, but you need to be able to understand what is your normal.

Hopefully you are viewing what you need to be viewing! If you are still curious and need some help, reach out and let me know!

But with that being the normal stuff you should know about, what are some things to be concerned about?

  1. Tissue color being red, purple, or any color not pink. If there is blood or any tissue color that may be abnormal, please note you should get that checked. This includes warts, spots, moles that are abnormal, new “pimples” or spots as well.

  2. Tissue coming to the outside of your vagina. This can be an indicator of prolapse or something going on that needs to be treated.

If you notice that your anatomy does not look like that of the pictures or my video DON”T FREAK OUT! It may be totally normal. Please understand that you could have a perfectly normal vagina, just different anatomy.

I often find myself bringing out a mirror to show my patients what they should be looking for. Please let me know if you need this! I can find someone in your area to help you.

In the mean time….happy vagina searching!!

Patient Testimonial Kathryn Swanson

I am SO PROUD of this lady! She came to me with feelings of frustration and not knowing if she was going to be able to run after her kids, or go to the park without leakage or worrying about whether there is a bathroom or not.

She stepped outside of her comfort zone, asked for help, and met her goals! We have also became such great friends since then!

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The time I was walking the “walk of shame” down a cold, dark alley.
With fear, anxiety, overwhelm, and pain.

The smells are still so intense … and sickening. The vision of the trees, the street so clear...

Falling into the street, crying. Wondering what just happened.

The time I had to gather myself and move on. Forget this happened and accept the fact that this was “my fault.”

Accept the fact that the man who raped me won. Accept the fact that I was damaged goods...forever.

The time I realized I had pelvic floor dysfunction from this. The sickening, deafening embarrassment, shame, guilt, and fear.
Constant covering up the leakage of urine or the “faking it” during sex, it was terrible, ripping pain. I thought this defined me.

The time I drowned this memory with alcohol. Experimentation. Attempts of “ending it all…”
With the small voice in my head stating, “It’s okay. It wasn’t your fault.” But drowning it out again.

The realization I had when the addictive personalities hit BIG and looking in the mirror was someone I’ve never known before and did not want to know.

Now, ask me about…

The time I packed up everything, followed my dreams, moved out of state, and overcame it all.
With the glimmer of hope I could become someone….just anyone that wasn’t who I was.

Learning who I was, I’ve never done that before. My morals, my values, my capabilities.

The time I took charge of my health and became proactive in eliminating my symptoms.

Took charge of my mental well being, my emotions, and my ability to love others.
Became aware of the habits I had formulated that weren’t serving me.

The time I became obsessed with healing, empowering, and advocating for women around the world who have suffered.
Who have been silent sufferers and masked every single feeling and emotion they’ve ever had while they consistently felt it was their fault, they are undeserving, or they are not enough.

So, please.

Ask me about my vagina.


Sleeping Naked

I know, am I really going there?? Yes, I am. I want to break through any of the boundaries we have about our bodies and any false belief we have about “down there.”

Did you know there are many health benefits to sleeping naked? Now, for me this used to be something that would make me so nervous. What if I had discharge? What if I had leakage? What if something happened that my partner would think was gross??

But then I started to try it. I got over my fears and started to strip down each night. I started to wake up feeling much more rested, more in tune with my body, and I felt like I had a healthier vagina. So, I started to dig into why I might be feeling like that or why I’m feeling better. Here is what I found.

When you sleep naked, your natural thermostat in your body is not affected by clothing. Your skin and your body are actually at the temperature it is meant to be. When we wear underwear or clothes to bed, we are restricting this natural thermostat and causing a more enclosed, heated temperature. Especially near the vagina.

When you do not wear underwear to bed, you allow the vagina to “air out.” This just means there are no trapped bacteria or harmful chemicals that cannot be released during sleep. This can help to decrease vaginal infections!!!

You can actually wake up with more confidence. This is mostly due to getting a better nights rest from not having the normal restrictions you have from clothing, but who doesn’t want to wake up more confident??? Sleeping naked can also increased intimacy with your partner. I often tell my patients who feel as if their relationships are lacking intimacy or sex, to try sleeping naked. Almost always wakes them up with a surprise!!!

For me, the fact that I wake up more rested, I have more intimacy with my partner, and I feel as if I truly am sleeping enough is plenty of reason for me!

Give it a shot! Try taking it off and sleeping!!!!!

Understanding Your Pelvic Floor

I am a FIRM believer in the importance of understanding and knowing your own anatomy. I believe it is significant in the diagnosis process because if you do not know what is normal, how will you know it needs helps?

In this video, I have given you and overview of the general female reproductive anatomy! Please let me know if you have any questions.