Feelin' Yourself...Literally

Sep 01, 2019

So, I treat a variety of patients. You all know that. I have younger patients who are planning to conceive, patients whom are pregnant, and postpartum females, even some into the menopause era.

I LOVE each transition in life and I find it so much fun to be the "investigator" to figure out what and why things are going on.  

One of the more frequent questions and observations I've been getting from patients recently is, 

"What if I do not have a partner? You say sex is good for pelvic health, but I do not have anyone to have sex with." 

And my answer is always the same...."Learn to have sex with yourself!" 

I know that sounds kind of funny, maybe a bit over the top, but it's the truth. We must learn to be able to LOVE on ourselves as well. If we cannot pleasure ourselves, how do we expect men to understand how to pleasure us? Especially after giving birth and your body is different. 

So, I'm going to give you 3 tips on how to self stimulate. I promise this is not like a porn email. It's just some good ole' information! 

  1. Touch areas you never touch. Like the soles of your feet, your forearms, the area around your nipple, the inside of your thigh. Many women go straight for the "spot" and do not take time to explore. This is an excellent time to learn about your body prior to, during, and after having a baby.
  2. Make sure your lighting and aromas are satisfactory. If you are trying to "feel yourself" during a chaotic time like the kids are outside with dad and you just want a break, or you have something on the stove, or you're watching tv...you will get distracted and it may not work so great for you. You need to be able to focus on yourself and zone in on what YOU want in this period of time.
  3. Get creative. I'm not a huge fan of toys becauseithink we need to learn to feel with our hands and our body before adding something else into the mix, but try different lubricants. Try different eseential oils in the diffuser. Get creative!!! 

After you do all of this you will be able to tell your future partner or your current partner exactly what you like and how they can truly make sex fun for you too! 

Now, the next question I get is "Dr. Kaylee, I just can't seem to feel pleasure..." 

Well, if that is the case it is likely we are dealing with some kind of pelvic floor dysfunction, in which you need to schedule a call with me ASAP. 

Click the “chat with Dr. Kaylee” on my home page now. 

I can help you figure out what is going on and what to do about it!  

Happy pleasing! 


Dr. Kaylee 


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